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Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear. ~Ambrose Redmoon
How many times have you thought about joining the gym and then went for the "err not for me" response because you were scared that people in there were going to judge you? The idea for this post came last week when I was chatting to a good friend of mine who struggles with losing weight as much as she struggles with the fear of judgment for actually trying to do something about it.
Now, who hasn't been there?, I wonder. We have all struggled with our appearance at some point in our lives and I think it's fair for me to at least use my blog as a tool to share how I ended up overcoming my struggles in hope that I will help at least one person. Here you go, 6 things I tell myself every time I have a low moment and I just want to hide instead of being confident and working out whenever, wherever I want.
1 - You're not the only one.
For me, the gym was a place full of extremely fit people who knew exactly what they were doing at all times. In my head I was the only flabby person walking through the door who still had to read the instructions on how to turn on a piece of a machinery or use the equipment correctly. Was that the case? Hell no. There were people from all backgrounds, all body types and all sorts of fitness levels. Everyone working on something specific and no one particularly giving a damn about you being there or not.
2 - Go with a friend or Do a group class.
If you're paranoid you'll look ridiculous doing stuff on your own then grab a friend or even better, attend a group class. That way you'll see a good 10 other women or more struggling as much as you do, if not worse, and you'll feel right being there.
3 - Choose the time of the day.
This was probably the best discovery for me. If you can, go in the middle of the day or at weird times. Avoid full-pack hour when everyone decides to go - for example post-dinner or before work. Personally, I found my gym being completely empty around 3pm during the week.
4 - Get the cool gear.
I cannot stress this enough but getting the good gear will not only boost your confidence but also motivate you to do more. If you want to feel like a VS model and rock a good bra with leggings then don't be afraid. There are many ways you can do that without being afraid of showing some tummy. I found the TLC Tummy Control with figure firming high waist legging and it was hands down the best thing I could have asked for in my fitness routine. They just suck you right in and you feel amazing. You can double them down if you're brave and show off some belly or just wear them all the way up and still look damn amazing. Wether you run, jump, stretch or do whatever, you won't feel any jiggling or shaking of excess fat. This gem pulls in your waist, flattens your tummy, firms, smoothes and slims hips & thighs. Oh, it also lifts and shapes your bottom and no matter how many times you wash it, it never loses shape or colour. It's the bomb because the price is reasonable and the quality is outstanding.
5 - Focus on your goal.
Why are you going to the gym? You're paying money to do something for yourself, to gain some confidence, to be a better person. Why let some total strangers stop you? The only person actually stopping you from achieving your dream is you. I live by that saying and it helps me so much. At the end of the day, no one gives a rat's ass about you whilst they're working out. The whole "men staring at you" or "girls making fun of you" is just a movie cliche thing that happens very rarely. I talked to so many people about this legend and nobody has ever pointed it out to me saying that it happened to them. No one has the time and the money to waste poking fun at other people in an environment like this. Go in, do your thing and get out!
6 - Own the back row.
Last but not least, there's nothing bad with owning the back row, or a hidden corner. Everyone has been there, everyone has done that. Choosing the most remote spot to be on your own - it's a thing. There's no shame. Trust me though, after a while, you won't care where you work out and before you know it, you won't have a problem strolling around in your workout gear at the park and having fun working out in front of anyone.
So here are my tips. Have you got any? If you don't go to the gym, what's the reason stopping you?