Thursday, 26 May 2016
Is Social Media FAKE?
I was getting ready to head to my friend's birthday party the other day and I took part in a chat about social media. I didn't think it would be thought-provoking initially, but as I was waxing I couldn't help but wonder "Am I real online? This is me right now - sweaty cause I hate waxing, my room is a mess and my nail polish has chipped. I certainly ain't sharing a photo of this precise moment so does that make me ... fake?". Hmm.
The answer to that question is NO. I am real. Social media is part of my daily life, not just because of my blog but in general. I always liked sharing photos and I will admit I was one of those teenagers who would go home and complain about a boring teacher on my Facebook page when I was 13. *face palm* Timehop kills me each time an old memory resurfaces but it's funny to see how things changed. Whilst now I like sharing photos of my outfits or snaps of my latest purchases, it doesn't mean that what you see in those images is everything that happens in a day. My life doesn't revolve around shopping but IT IS part of it.
Social media doesn't have to be fake at all. If you want to make a complete different image for yourself, a different person online, then cool, you do that mate, but to me seeing a slightly more polished version of someone on instagram doesn't scream 'unreal'. There's people who like to share their birth on YouTube and that's great but that person would never be me. I guess we could say that it's a personal view what we all consider to be 'real' or not when it comes to sharing your life online however there's a couple of things I wanted to get off my chest.
Just because it's good, it doesn't mean it's not real
For the past year especially I see that many people are quick to judge others on the content they share, labelling it as 'fake' if all you get to see if pretty flatlays of expensive makeup, designer bags, new shoes, flowers and your perfect manicure. Whilst I can see why it's all too ~perfect~, that photo taken in that moment is exactly what's happening, if that person chooses to share it and caption it in a certain way. I may not know that on the way to get your mani you slipped and fell and lost your keys but it's YOUR choice not to say that. Fact is, I see your nice nails and I'm loving them so I'll double tap it and move on. Just because someone decides to tell parts of a story it doesn't make them fake.
Everyone's reality is different
Whilst I may not be able to afford a Hermes or Chanel bag, I love following women who own these pieces because there's no harm in looking, right? If anything, I get inspired to work and one day achieve something. Just because it's not my reality, it doesn't mean it's unreal for literally everyone. I know that many teenagers and younger people in general may get the wrong impression about what the world is like if they follow people who live the Manhattan's Upper East side lifestyle (can you tell I've been re-watching Gossip Girl?). However, who are we to judge what's real or not, especially when we don't know the person on the other side? We need to get over the fact that some people are rich or are paid better. End of. I can't stop eye-rolling when I see bitter women calling others 'not relatable' because they decide to show their lifestyle. Just do you and focus on yourself.
People share what's they're comfortable with
Just because you don't see me post selfies on the toilet it doesn't mean I'm not relatable. I am the first to tell people that I share quite little of my personal life online. Just because I like talking about makeup and fashion on here, it doesn't mean that these two topics are the only things I care about. I just know that whatever you put online stays there, so I prefer to present certain things but others just keep to myself. For example I may have been extremely stressed out the past few months before my final major project submission, but just because I didn't moan about it in every single blog post I don't think it makes me fake. I mean, who cares about it anyway? YES, I'm nosey and I like seeing what youtubers and bloggers reveal about their past or their challenges but I respect the limits and people online really don't owe you anything. As a reader of many blogs I don't expect the blogger to share the details of her relationship or the fight she had with her best friend. If she wants to, cool, otherwise I'm more than happy to read about her latest lip balm addiction.
Most of us wear a filter in real life
Some may disagree but even in real life, with long term friends or family we filter out some bits. No one likes going around telling everyone their problems especially since it's hard to trust people. You may not realise it, but you certainly wear your own kind of filter sometimes. Just the other day I was going to meet up with a friend for drinks and I love her to bits but I really REALLY wasn't in the mood as I've had a long week. I don't like cancelling though so I slapped on a smile and two shots later we were laughing out loud and I was glad I gathered the energy to go out. People always tell me I look happy and with no worries at all as I crack jokes and sing with my gal-pals but truth is, I just decide to have a positive attitude around people and only crack if I'm in real trouble or surrounded with the closest people around me who can tell something's wrong. Other than that, just because Kristina is always happy, it doesn't mean she's faking it. I decide to be happy and then if I have stuff to deal with on the side, I will. I never understood people who post rant statuses on Facebook or Twitter looking for attention to then say "Oh nothing" when people ask what's wrong.
So basically after all this ramble my point was that social media is not fake, unless you want to make it that way. I'd love to know your thoughts though as I know this can be a little bit of a controversial topic!
PS - In the photo I'm wearing this bomber. I'm obsessed with it.