Wednesday, 27 December 2017

10 Life Lessons 2017 Has Taught Me




Don't know about you, but for me 2017 has been one massive rollercoaster full of ups and downs. The good was great and the bad was really bad. I definitely think that the last couple of years have been a bit challenging in general to say the least and with that a lot of lessons have been learnt. The last 12 months especially I really had the opportunity to grow and fight on my own. I haven't always made the best decisions and I definitely wouldn't be here if it wasn't for the most amazing support system I could have asked for: my friends. 

As the end of the year is creeping up and 2018 is right at the door (how?!) I wanted to take a step back and share the little bits of life lessons I picked up along the way, as I'm definitely not the same girl I was this time last year. 






- Not everyone you meet is meant to stay. 
I let go of friendships that I genuinely thought were going to last a life time but when things get toxic you need to be smart and look after yourself. Leave that person behind. Cherish the good memories but realise they aren't good enough to stick around with you for the long run. 

- Have faith that people who wronged you this year, will enter 2018 having leart from their mistakes. 
Karma really works and I have seen it first hand how anyone who screwed up wants to have a second chance if they know they're in the wrong. It's up to you wether you wish to give that chance but time is precious and you don't want to be wasting yours on people who take you for granted or take advantage of you. 

- Actions speak louder than words. 
Of course it's great when someone says "I love you" but they have to prove it. These days it's easier to  tell someone via text how much they mean to you but then if they fail to arrange time to spend with you and fail to treat you well, do the words even matter? Not really. 

- Don't linger on a set back. 
Shit happens. Things don't go to plan. Timing is bad. Sometimes it feels like the end of the world but it isn't. After a setback, there's always a stronger comeback. 

- Stick to your decision. 
Wether you got rid of someone toxic who you were comfrtable with or left a job you hated but was secure; it's done, move onto the next thing and stay positive. Create a fresh page and build yourself up. New and better things are right on the other side. 

- Always pay attention to someone's patterns as that will tell you lots about them. 
I like to give people the benefit of the doubt, but more often than not, they tend to repeat the same mistakes they did in the past and manifest the same type of behavior. Watch out. 

- Once you set your standards high, realise your worth and learn to love yourself, you WILL have the strenghth to cut off toxic people from your life. We tend to stick to bad infleuce when we're still not fully healed and whilst I admit it took me a while to fully get rid of certain individuals, now that I have I feel so much better about it. 

- Learn to not make the same damn mistake over and over and over again. 
If something is bad for you, don't do it. I definitely made a serious of bad decisions, one after the other for a few months and got myself into situations I cringe about now. Of course they taught me something and I have developed from them but I make damn sure I never do the same mistake again, certainly not in 2018. 

- Not everyone is going to love you the same way you love them and just because you love them it doesn't mean they're worthy of you. 
I know this sounds corny but you've got to look for people who are there to build you up and who make you happy. For far too long I was stuck with someone because of 'history' and 'memories'. Yes, you want to work out rough patches and not give up sometimes, but it has to go both ways. Did they ultimately make me happy and contributed to something in my life? No. After taking time for myself and then finding someone who treats me well and is on the same waveleangth as me, I totally understand how much I've changed and how I deserve to be treated. 

- If someone really cares for you, they will do everything in their power to stay in your life, and show you that you're a priority every day. 
Don't settle for some half arsed person who "will see" if they can fit you in their schedule but ultimately never does. Every relationship in your life should be a strong one. If a family memeber, a partner or a friend isn't there for you 100%.. you don't need them. Life is too short for half arsed connections. 






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  1. These are all great lessons to learn - especially all the friendship stuff. I was trying to explain to a relative this week that just because you have something in common with someone, doesn't mean you'll get along. That is something I've learnt this year.

    C x

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    1. That's so true, girl! :)
      Hope 2018 will bring you lots of happiness x

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  2. So glad you are taking each experience of 2017 and learning from it. I am sure all that has happened is for a reason and you will become more beautiful from it.

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    1. 100%, I learnt so much from it for sure :)

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  3. I think human relationships take a lot of work on both sides, and there's always a reason why things happen. Still, lessons can be learned. Wishing you all the best for the New Year!

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  4. Such a lovely and inspiration post! I love it!

    xx Lisa | lisaautumn.com

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  5. Such great lessons here - I definitely have realised it's important to say no this year, and also I need to keep away some toxic energies that I've encountered. Going to focus on looking after my health and body this next year! xx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

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  6. Yes, 2017 has been a year of lessons. It's so interesting that many people are saying the same thing about their 2017. I've learned many things about myself and how to be more comfortable with who I am. Another big lesson that I'm taking with me is that I need to study my actions so I can become a better me. Thanks for sharing what you've learned this year. I hope your 2018 is amazing!

    -Racquel
    www.purposely-you.com

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  7. I think you are absolutely right not to linger on the bad and set backs. Take a look at them as see if you could have done anything differently, if it's beyond your control more on. I think this year I've learnt to appreciate myself and how far I've come in terms of believing in myself.

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  8. "After a setback, there's always a stronger comeback" is such a good quote! Definitely going to try to remember this one, totally agree with your points here! Lovely post, really well-written :)

    Anika | anikamay.co.uk

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  9. These are some amazing lessons to have learnt, both for yourself and the way you view the world. Sometimes it is hard to let go of people, or the things they have done but it is best for you.

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  10. I've also learned to stick to my decisions! I decided to stop contacting people that were toxic in my life and, of course, they never bothered contacting me! Glad I've got rid of those "Friends"

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  11. Don't linger on a setback is my favorite. There's really no point of dwelling what has happened in the past, instead use it as a challenge to become better in the future.

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  12. Could not agree more with everything you've learnt especially not everyone will love you like you love them, this is definitely something that I learnt this year and had to overcome

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  13. This is a lovely post! I really need to do more of these next year, especially not lingering on things that have happened. Need to be more positive next year! xx

    Tamz | http://www.throughneweyesx.com

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  14. I'm really lucky that I haven't really had to worry about this in recent years. I'm in my mid-thirties now and I I've settled into a family and friendship network that I feel happy and safe in. It does come :)

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  15. Lovely lessons and post. Thanks for sharing

    Narhee | Made in Mauve

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  16. It's great to create forward looking, positive thoughts from every experience in life. It's not always easy but better to always be moving forward.

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  17. Thank you, Kristina, for sharing your experience in 2017 with us. It is very useful to read some good advises in how to behave yourself when you face some problems or uncomfortable situations.

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