Monday, 19 February 2018

Being In Your 20s...

Oh wow, she's wearing head to toe black and sunglasses, she looks like she has her shit together. Well, guess what, I don't. 

Everyone bangs on about how hard is being a teenager, but to be honest with you, I find my 20s a much bigger challenge. You're expected to act like a grown-up when inside you still feel like a kid. You have the energy but not the money. You have your whole life still ahead of you, but somehow you feel like you should be someone and do something meaningful by now. Most people who are "someone" or who "made it", do so in their 20s, or so says the norm, so there's this invisible race where you want to reach for all your goals and hopes and dreams by the time you hit the big 3-0. 

You want to travel, you want to buy the house, you want to finally get a pet, you want a career and before you know it, you're lost in the chase. 

People do expect you to make the mistakes though. This is the time when most of us experience our first real heartbreak, the painful goodbye, the discovery that actually the job you thought you wanted isn't for you. We grow and we change. I can honestly say that the Kristina someone might have known 3 years ago isn't the same now. 

I'm 24, and I still see that insecurity in my mother's eyes which reminds me every day that actually, answers don't come with age. You get experience, yes, but life has never been designed with a point or a line where things definitely get easier or clearer. I think I've been spending most of my 20s so far, concerned with what I don't have or haven't achieved, instead of patting myself on the back for the little successes. Of course, you need to keep the fire burning and work constantly on achieving your end goals, whatever those may be, but it's also good to stop along the way and recognise your growth, no matter how small or big that might be. 

This is supposed to be the prime of your life. You're also bound to make life-changing decisions and occasionally... crucial mistakes that might bite you in the ass someday. It's part of the fun though, right?

Point is.... it's perfectly ok to NOT have your shit together right now. Thought I'd put it out there in case I have a bad day and need to read this back to give me a kick up the arse. 

Coat - WearAll *
Jeans - Topshop
Shoes - Topshop (old) super similar here 
Sunglasses - Prada 
Bag - Chanel 



  1. Yes girl! This is so true, I turn 26 this year and still haven't got much figured out. It's all a bit of a surprise and although we can try to plan and achieve certain goals, if it doesn't work out it's good to remember it's not the end of the world. Fab post x

  2. So true!! Love this post and your photography - you’re stunning! X

  3. LOVE this post babe! Everyone always seem to look like they have their shit together but actually we are all wondering around not having a clue!

    Ellie xx

  4. Love your bag! I’m nearly 30 and still trying to sort out my life plan xx

  5. Wow your fur jacket is gorgeous, love this outfit!
    And the post makes me feel a bit better, although I'm 30 and don't have my shit together yet! xx

  6. Oh to be in my twenties!! You look amazing, I love your coat. Kaz

  7. So relate to this I'm 21 and feel that pressure and insecurity as I have so many life changing things happening this year and it's scary

  8. I am not in my 20's but I can still relate to what you expressed. Be content in life is sometimes not achievable. It is a constant race. And many challenges to face. But stay the same and positive and every piece will fall at right place :)

  9. I'm in my 50s and remember how I felt as a 20 something. My advice would be just enjoy yourself and stop stressing over stuff that absolutely does not matter. Time goes much faster than you think.

  10. Love the coat!

  11. I do find my 20s to be more enjoyable than my teen years. I enjoy being able to make my own decisions, even though I do not have as much financial freedom as I wish I could.

  12. I agree with this so much, I was always wanting to leave home as a teenager and couldn’t wait, but balancing all of the money stuff and trying to live your life as well, is a nightmare!

  13. I hope that it's perfectly acceptable not to have your shit together in your 30s too! I'm hoping 40 is the magical age!!

  14. I absolutely did not have my sh*t together in my twenties! Even now in my mid thirties with 2 kids I still don’t feel like I’ve gotten it together. Older and wiser, perhaps, but still learning new things every day.

  15. I know exactly what you mean! I am guessing my way through my twenties!

  16. I literally agree with everything in this post!


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