Monday, 6 August 2018

Improving My Body Confidence



Let's be real - everyone, at one point or another in their life, faced body confidence issues. Some of us more than others. The ugly duckling years at school definitely destroyed my self-confidence and the way I look at myself in the mirror for so many years, and to this day I still struggle sometimes. 

I'm 24 now, and whilst I'm still not fully in love with myself all the time (is anyone?), I have learned to embrace my own body a lot more. I go to the gym weekly, take care of myself and appreciate what I have. I may not have amazing tits, but I make up for it with a good ass. I may not have the perfect teeth, but I like my smile. I learned to love little quirks I was born with because guess what, no one else is like me. Yes, this is so cheesy and generic but it's bloody true. If you asked me to take pics in my lingerie with a professional photographer a few years ago I would have curled up in a ball and refused to. 


I started to finally like the imperfections in my body that I would usually like on other girls. I always find the non-ordinary quite fascinating and stunning. Everyone loves a Meghan Fox for example, but I truly like the vibe of a Helena Bonham Carter more, as the unconventional beauty has a kick to it. This is not to shame any generally stunning women, but it just gets a little boring seeing the same old everywhere. On Instagram, yes, you will find the perfect extra photoshopped models, however, I'm also starting to see ladies who are embracing every inch of their imperfections and leaving their own mark with their flawed selves. How empowering is that? It's a nice change of scene and a good way to use social media to spread positivity and acceptance. 


Got an extra few pounds? Slightly crooked teeth? Odd hair? Scars? Moles? Bigger nose? Girl, you work it. 

Of course there's nothing wrong with ladies getting plastic surgery if they feel like that route would change their life, however, the real work needs to be done internally first. Real body confidence comes from within; it comes from having a positive perception of yourself and not from what others may or may not think of you. This is probably the most important lesson I've learnt. In short - don't be a shady ass bitch to yourself. Would you say to your friend 'eugh you look bloated and gross today'? No. Then do yourself a favour and don't swim in these negative thoughts. 

What has truly helped me develop mentally has been taking care of myself and being in full control. Surround yourself with women who will hype you up, be with a man who thinks you look banging with makeup and dress on but also in your Sunday sweater and a messy bun, eat whatever you want but balance it with workouts, treat yourself! Just as in most other aspects of your life, who you vibe with and who you decide to surround yourself with, will make a ginormous impact on the way you feel. Most of all though, realise that what you think of yourself is what matters most. You can be your own best friend or worst enemy. So be selfish with your needs and do what makes YOU happy first. 


Don't forget: confidence is a practice and it doesn't happen overnight. One day you may wake up feeling amazing, and the next, depending on what life throws your way, you might feel very shit. Make sure you identify what makes you feel good and nourish that.

Me? I listen to certain artists on Spotify, who give me a kick and make me sassy no matter what's going on. I also book three weekly classes and when I can't hit the gym, I go for a beach walk. 

Once you identify what works for you, practice it. Make this a habit, as it will bring positive vibes any day and any time. 


Have you improved your self-confidence through the years? If so, how? :) 

I'd love to hear your stories. Feel free to email me! 


Photos by: the insanely talented Rebecca Frost 
Lingerie by: UK Lingerie *




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22 comments

  1. I'm working on my confidence, it's quite a slow process. You look fantastic though. x

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  2. So inspirational girl! Thank you!

    x Lisa | lisaautumn.com

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  3. These photos are sensational and I would be so happy to look like you but we all have insecurities with our own bodies x

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  4. I think body confidence is something everyone struggles with. It is nice to know you are working on yours. I think you look spectacular indeed.

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  5. What a great way to boost your self confidence as well, doing a classy photoshoot is such a great idea. You look great, glad to know you're working on feeling that way about yourself :)
    -Jackie

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  6. Body confidence is really important for me because it makes me feel more confident. I feel nice clean clothes especially the branded ones make me feel more confident.

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  7. Wow! Gorgeous! I am also working on my body confidence. At 43, I need it the most. I am still a little overweight, but I am working on shedding at least 10 lbs more and toning my muscles. It's really more for health reasons.

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  8. This is so damn inspirational. And sensual pics too. But you made me realize I am fat. But lovely ones I must say.. 🍸🍸

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  9. You. Are. So. HOT!
    I totally agree that real body confidence comes from within. We all gotta love ourselves first!

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  10. I did a shoot like this while I was on dialysis to celebrate what my body could do for me. After my transplant I finally began to love my body. Took long enough but I got there. Amazing photos!

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  11. We would love to have some tips and tutorials on photography too... your clicks are amazing

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  12. .."confidence is a practice". This is so true when you say it. Its strange.. have met so many people in life and most want to have a body like someone else! So, they would not know someone wants to look like them.. when they want to look like someone else! Haha. Hope this post inspires many more and your words continue to boost the spirit of people. I have found affirmations to be helpful in building confidence!

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  13. What a powerful message! Everyone should embrace their body because imperfection is beautiful!

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  14. I love the sentiment that confidence is practice - it's hard to always feel like I'm rocking it but it's important to remember everyone struggles! we're all unique and embracing that will make each of us even stronger :)

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  15. Thinking to much about what others think will always disappoint. Instead learning to embrace your curves, flaws, and accept the beauty within and outward. These are the things that should be celebrated.

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  16. It's always essential for one to accept your own beauty.Body Confidence is mere a result of practing

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  17. You look absolutely stunning babe, so pleased you're at a point where you're more confident with your body. I have reached a point where I truly love my body xxx

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  18. This is such an inspirational post! I have had body confidence issues for a long time and learning to love myself has been one of the hardest things I have ever had to do! But you are right, everyone is unique and no one is like each other so we should embrace this! Thanks for sharing! :)

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  19. Oh my word these snaps are amazing. I used to model and since having my smallest children have put on so much weight and have a very low self confidence level which is something that i really want to change x

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  20. Being confident is super important. It's hard to really know who you are if you don't accept yourself fully. Agree 100%!

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  21. My self confidence is at an all time low, I am overweight, my skin is bad and I don't seem to be able to shift it despite doing lots of exercise and eating healthy.........

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  22. I love love love how you showed more people how confident you are getting. You may not be 100% there yet, there's nothing wrong with being a constant work in progress. Continue slaying!

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